Most of us especially ladies are fond of unconsciously distancing ourselves from our friends when we start seeing that new fresh lover.
It is natural for your friend to get a new love interest and therefore devote more time for them in the beginning.
However, like everything is this life, balance is the key and most are found wanting if this relationship goes sour. This is where you’d find people running back to their friends.
Here are some few tips to reconnect with your friends while the lover is on board.
Change your perspective of friendship
People normally see friends as “something to do” until they meet a romantic partner. These people are missing out on a very vital part of their emotional life. Friends are equally essential and until there is a mind renewal of how you see friendship, you would continue treating them as a “go to” when crisis happens and this could leave you more lonely in the long run.
Consciously receive calls and reply texts
You should be able to call your friend back when you miss their calls or initiate a conversation with that friend not only when you need a favor. Make it a conscious effort to make time to chat with friends and occasionally video call them to keep friendship going.
Constantly communicate feelings to each other
Friends on the other side who feel that they are been ignored should communicate their feelings and sentiments about it. Keeping quite on your part only means you don’t value the friendship enough and really cannot be bothered. Some people don’t know how to be friends and your constant voicing out your feelings puts them on their toes to being better. Don’t just sit around thinking your pal has gotten it all figured out, coach him if you have to.
Actively plan outings and hang outs
You should involve yourself in planning hang outs and outings and make sure that you don’t stand them up. Actively planning an outing means you are booking venues and dates and you cannot afford to miss them even if something comes up. Update friends if plans change and you are unable to come and step up efforts to make it up to your friends if you are not able to come.
Double date if you are comfortable with it
This pointer is ultimately the best if you want to multi-task. While building the relationship with your lover, you can also spend quality time with your friend and this even draws you more closer since you are privy to certain information about your friend that you might have never known or found out.
Not everybody is out to get you
Most people think that their friends do not wish them well and would either snatch their new lovers or be very jealous about their relationship due to past experiences and so therefore, cut all links with them when the lover is around. For these people, you should end all forms of re-connection while still single. For those who are basing facts on these rumors, note that not everybody out to get you, some actually want the best for you so you should give yourself a try and remain a good friend.